Love=Power, being loved=master. SM is a metaphor for mundane reality, normality; being a wife&mother, a female eunuch, is much worse. Ties, double-edged sword, things you own end up owning you. The tortured turned into torturer, ex-slave is the strictest master.
"how come I've never seen you people before?" " because we are the people you do not want to see.we are the ones who drive your cars, we clean your rooms, and suck your cocks"